From another side (looks like the downside, at the moment)

Well, now that I'm DIVORCING, God help me, the "annasanchez" domain probably isn't a good idea.... *Sigh* Those of you who know me well surely understand that this, uh, huge life transition was a long time coming, but I can tell you that it is still pretty damn painful. I suppose it's worse to be on the other end -- in this case, Antonio's end -- when one partner decides that a marriage is over, but maybe it's just a matter of timing: I'd gone through a lot of emotional pain and "work" (processing, agonizing, whatever you want to call it) by the time I finally got up the nerve to tell Antonio that I had to end our marriage, whereas it was at that moment that his "work" (i.e. excruciating pain) had to begin.

So now we pay the lawyers, vascillate between hating each others' guts and trying to get even and trying desperately to get along somehow for the kids' sake, and although I have no doubts or regrets about what I'm doing, I feel awful for the pain that this is causing the man I loved and married 9.5 years ago. On the other hand... I know I did everything I could to try to make the marriage work, and that its last months were essentially unbearable... but no matter how you look at it, divorce just sucks, whether it's one-sided or mutual.

That's the news from Lake Wobegon, where the women are strong... or trying to be, one damn day at a time.